Kintsugi is the Japanese art of repairing broken pottery by mending the areas of breakage with lacquer dusted or mixed with powdered Gold, Silver, or Platinum- a metaphor for the things we do not showcase being the ones which makes us ‘us’.
Think about it- You break a vase, you mend it, you embrace it. But what exactly did you cherish? The breaking, the broken, or the mending? Uh, it’s my habit to make simple things complicated, but that’s how we humans are- A mess. Unlike a showpiece, we feel the b.r..e…a….k…..i……n…….g and like the broken showpiece, we tend to wait for someone to arrive, gather our pieces and put them back together in the space we used to occupy. We crave acceptance from the ones around us and when we don’t get it, the hate, anger, frustration turn inwards which puts you into a space-time conjuncture where you aren’t you anymore. You become your own peace and your own chaos and I hate the vibe of it. Well… we are, how we are because of a lot of reasons, and the point is, no matter who you are or what you are to a person, you can’t fix them because the thing is, a person will never be able to see his worth in someone else’s eyes if he lacks it in his own.
So, when someone opens up in front of you, don’t pretend that they’re flawless. Don’t question them about the reasons which changed along with them, rather just be there. Look at their scars the way you look at the moon in the dark and tell them that the way they carry themselves is absolutely gorgeous. Appreciate them for all the little things they try to do in the perfect way, but remind them, when you feel the need to, that it’s okay to leave things as they are.
For this once, hold on to them for a little longer than a little while, until they stop hiding behind the clouds and running toward the lights, until they realize that the stars they seek, twinkle in their own eyes and until they begin to see that they are beautiful not in the way they are, but in the way everyone needs to be. And
In the meantime, don’t forget to be kind to your own self as well. Okay?
You too are precious.
Hope you’re having a great time.
I wanted to write both as and to the vase. To some extent, I think I succeeded in putting things into perspective. Yet I’ll be much happier if you point out anything you thought is unnecessary or needs some edit. Thanks.